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There is a simple “counter-intuitive” way to fix a broken relationship and most people mess up on this big time.
When the couple first fall in love, it is a many splendoured thing. Eventually the couple will go through tough times in their relationship and there are certain definitive steps the couple needs to take to fix the relationship problems that occur. There is a wealth of information available on how to fix a broken relationship but the first step is to ask yourself whether it is worth your while to repair the relationship and to keep it blossoming. You first need to answer the question of whether you are getting more pain or pleasure from fixing the broken relationship. Sometimes fixing the relationship can be an excruciating painful experience and hence some serious consideration needs to be addressed here.
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Do Not Contact Ex – Allow No Contact Time
Many people do this the wrong way which is to beg, bargain and phone your ex. The efforts to get back your ex through that way will not work This is one of the biggest reason why people fail to fix a broken relationship. Why it wont help you is because you must understand the concept that both of you are still at loggerheads with one another and you are experiencing tension and at this stage it is too stressful to discuss how to fix the relationship problems. Some “thinking time” is needed so that you can both think about the relationship and how both feel about the value of the relationship.
It is best to allow a month or two to consider the options available to each other. Determine the exact reason behind the break up and exactly who is at fault. After finding out the root cause of the relationship failure, it will become much easier to go forward and fix the relationship issues.
During this period, you should be focusing on yourself , going for workout to keep fit, and engaging in activities in local fitness club and/or developing other hobbies like mountain climbing, yoga, sailing to make yourself feel better. Go out with family members and friends and make yourself happy. Your ex will be wondering why you are doing so well and will pique their curiosity to contact you to find out the reason why you are so happy and independent. And what you need to do is just hold the horse for the time being.
Start Communicating After Self Imposed Hiatus
There are literally one thousand and one things you can do during this period of self imposed hiatus. It is not an easy feat to achieve but by not dwelling on the fact that your partner has dumped you, you will slowly but surely start feeling good about yourself. Your self confidence and consequently self esteem will follow. After a couple of months, when your ex is desperate to see you and you are ready to face them, you can re-establish the communication with your ex. An ultra-powerful technique would be to get your ex to make the initial contact which can be by a phone call or a personal visit.
If that is not possible, then you must make the move of a phone call yourself.
Have a meeting in a setting that is neutral. Be natural , friendly and be yourself when you meet up with your ex. Have an open and honest communication about what you are willing to do to make the relationship work again. Make sure that you do not have any resentments in the conversation and the rule is to be aware and mindful of each other’s feelings and don’t say any hateful things. Your partner cannot see your heart and can only hear what comes out from you. You need to exercise restraint and give a listening ear to your partner even if the feedback is not favourable and be prepared to put down your defense mechanisms and work on your faults.
The simple plan on how you can fix a broken relationship above looks surprisingly easy
but it is a proven way of restoring a broken relationship that works EVERY time!
However you need to execute the plan and make the various moves to be successful in restoring the relationship. The essence of the strategy is to step back and distance yourself from your ex as both of you need some space from each other and then after a period of no-contact , slowly open the line of communication with a mature and sincere discussion towards reconciliation.
To read on about What You Need To Know About Relationships: Five Tips That Can Help You To Stop Asking, “How To Fix My Relationship”, see Fix My Relationship (page 2)
